We absorb expectations about work and career from our communities, and families, particularly as we grow up. The way those around you interact with work guides the way you think about your work. You have many shoulds and should nots, dos and do nots, that guide you — whether or not you are aware of them.
The rules you hold about work define your relationship with it.
In order to find a sense of freedom and space for yourself, you have to be willing to break the rules.[Tweet that]
You have to be willing to confront the rules and tell them off (it’s harder than it sounds).
Doing your work is an act of rebellion against so much of how we’re “supposed” to operate. You’re not a cog and you have something great to give (see the Manifesto for more on that). Pursuing a sense of calling and vocation takes deep courage and a willingness to challenge the status quo.
Your own version of “status quo” becomes apparent once you start examining your work rules.[Tweet that]
In order to break the rules, you must begin by naming them.
Some common rules are (add your own in the comments):
– get a job and keep that job (no matter what)
– work shouldn’t be fun, that’s why it’s called “work”
– you don’t need to love it
– real life is what happens in the evenings, weekends, and after you retire
– it doesn’t matter what you do, as long as you make good money
– having a career and providing for your family matter more than anything else
Know the rules that have guided you thus far, find who and what they come from, and then break the rules that are not helpful.
You are more free than you think you are.