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What Happens if You Accept Responsibility Even When You Don’t Have to?

- - Risk and Fear, Tools, Work

“Everyone leaves me!  It’s not my fault.”

I had a friend who was so committed to powerlessness and playing the victim that his life fell apart.  These words came in a desperate and defiant moment, as I was trying to help him see this.  His actions toward a few people in his life were damaging and hurtful, yet he was blind to the effects of his action.  All he could see was his own hurt and what others had done to him.

Eventually, his marriage and many of his friendships fell apart.  His response was the same, “This is always what happens to me!  Everyone leaves.”

It was a mess.

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How to Build a New Year Resolutions Support Team

- - Goals, Purpose, Tools, Work

A young reader emailed me recently about her career goals. She wants to be a researcher and teacher but her friends all just want to play video games. She was struggling with the tension between her goals and her relationships. She felt like they were competing for attention.

I recommended she find some people who could appreciate her goals and who are pursuing similar things. Instead of spending evenings playing games online, she needs people who will share a table full of text books and study with her.
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How to Create Sustainable Momentum Toward Your Goals

- - Desire, Goals, Purpose, Tools, Work

There has been some confusion in our house lately around two different words. Whenever my 1 year old sees a picture of a goose, we usually tell him it’s a goose and that it says “honk”. Honk, it seems, sounds very similar to a word he’s an expert in— bonk. So, instead of mimicking the goose sound, our little guy leans forward and bangs his head against the book. We should probably clear this up for him, but in the mean time, it’s really funny.
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How to Fix Your New Year Resolutions

- - Goals, Inspiration, Tools

“Don’t shop when you’re hungry.” That’s a good piece of advice that gets passed around. Are you familiar with it? Have you ever thought about why?

If you shop based on what you want at this moment, you’ll end up with a refrigerator full of nothing but lime La Croix and frozen cheese pizza. I’m not going to judge you for living on a diet of carbonated water and cheese— we all have to work with what we’ve got — but I will argue that some vegetables and fruit might be a nice addition.

But they’re hard to buy when you’re starving and just want to go home, drink bubbles, and eat cheese.
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Write Your Manifesto (here’s how)

- - Courage, Tools, Work

A manifesto is a public declaration of your intentions. It’s a simple articulation of what you believe and a vision of the world that you wish to create.

Whether you realize it or not, some of the speeches and documents that have most shaped the world could be called manifestos:

Martin Luther King Jr.’s “I Have a Dream” speech casts a vision of the world the MLK spent his life working to create.

The Declaration of Independence is an articulation of what the founders of the United States believed about humanity, and their intention to be free from outside rule.

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