“Everyone leaves me! It’s not my fault.”
I had a friend who was so committed to powerlessness and playing the victim that his life fell apart. These words came in a desperate and defiant moment, as I was trying to help him see this. His actions toward a few people in his life were damaging and hurtful, yet he was blind to the effects of his action. All he could see was his own hurt and what others had done to him.
Eventually, his marriage and many of his friendships fell apart. His response was the same, “This is always what happens to me! Everyone leaves.”
It was a mess.