I’m becoming increasing convinced that the best way to build community is to create together. Furthermore, the greater the creation, the deeper the community that results. If you are creating something that really matters with others, I mean the kind of thing that you really long to see manifested in the world, then deeper parts of those involved will be invited to come out and play.
When I’m not working with clients and blogging here, I am a photographer. As a photographer, I have always wanted my camera to be more of a consistent part of my life. I know some photographers that share their images all the time. They carry their cameras with them and capture life in beautiful ways. Though I do carry my camera with me often, I haven’t ever shared images that freely.
As I have wondered about this, I have realized that it’s mostly because I feel like they’re not good enough. I feel like a lot of my photos are boring. Sometimes they are fantastic, but many of them feel… ordinary.
A creative block is an impasse in your creative process. It is when you want to create, but feel stuck, stagnant, and at a loss for what to do next. (The most well-known creative block is Writter’s Block. I use Creative Block because it less medium specific.)
Here’s the thing about creative blocks: your block is like playing with a strong willed three year old. You want to play a certain game, play with a certain toy, or play in a certain way, but she won’t join you. You really just want her to do things your way, but she will have none of it.
In the early stages of any endeavor, we look forward to arrival. We set out with a goal in mind, and that is what keeps us moving forward. We long for the day when we come into our own and it feels like things are much less difficult.
I quit my job and started this blog with the intention of affecting change in the world. I want to help you bring more of who you are to what you do. It is meaningful work for me for many reasons, but it is also hard work. I started building this blog one post at a time, and this community one person at a time. Though I have big intentions for this work and for what this movement can be, it takes a long time to build.
As I feel the tension between where I am and where I want to be, I can easily idealize that future moment when everything will be in its right place (which is also a fantastic song). The problem then is that feeling “arrived” becomes the point, and we forget about the process.
Arrival is not the point.
Studies show that willpower is like a muscle— you can build it by exercise, and it gets tired when you use it too much.
The book, The Power of Habit, has a lot of great material around this idea — particularly chapter 5. People who come home after a draining day that has tested their willpower in big ways are much more likely to watch more TV, eat poorly, and not exercise. To choose to do something better or healthier takes more willpower than they have left to spend.
So what does this mean to you?