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The Psychological Necessity of Breaking the Rules

“We see you as an artist,” he said. His hair was long, thick, and wavy. His face thin and defined. His gaze intense and gentle.

Sixteen of us sat around a big solid wooden table, eating a meal together. We were all part of an Artist Residency at the graduate school I attended.

Somehow I ended up among them.

I didn’t think of myself as an artist. Though I studied music composition in undergrad, I always felt a bit like I was faking it— everyone else had a much greater mastery of their instruments and musical concepts.

I thought my main focus for the week of the Artist Residency was going to be writing music. It turns out it was something much deeper.

His words to me around that table were part of shift in how I thought of myself. It may seem small from the outside, but on the inside it was big. And risky.

I didn’t spend time around artists in my younger years. My family didn’t have a category for them. None of us were artists. In fact, I don’t know that I could find a single artist in my family tree.

We’d go to art events, but there was always a sense that those people weren’t our people. They were misunderstood and called “artsy-fartsy”.

Artists may make pretty things, but they didn’t seem to belong in our family.

It wasn’t until I was in my mid twenties that I began to embrace the fact that I really am a creative at heart, and that making is a big part of who I am.
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How to Deal With Anxiety (or How I Learned Mindfulness from a Navy SEAL Boot Camp Instructor)

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The other day Stacia said to me, “I just love how in the moment you are! You want to get the most out of whatever is going on!”

It’s true. I really love living in the moment, and sometimes I’m pretty good at it. When we’re having an amazing meal, it’s not hard for me to eat a little more. When we’re having a great time with friends, it’s not hard for me to stay a little longer.

But if I’m honest, most of the time, I’m not very good at staying in the moment. Much of the time it’s easy to worry and be anxious.

There are a number of unknowns in my life right now.

The biggest is that we’re expecting! Ahh! Come November there’s going to be a baby boy as a part of my daily life.

Along with a little human entering the world comes a whole slew of unknowns. How are we going to make ends meet? How is a third member of Team Cumberland going to affect our life? What’s this going to be like? And on and on and on.

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You Have the Power (So Keep It)

I had a conversation with a friend who just changed jobs.  She had been a stylist for a big company for product and promotional shoots.  She’s great at what she does and is full of creativity and passion.

Unfortunately, the company wasn’t interested in her great ideas.  They had systems and processes that were more important.

Structure and procedure have their place— the company is doing well.  But its priorities are to play it safe and not rock the boat (along with barely paying their employees).

That’s a tough environment for a highly creative and forward-thinking stylist.

It was only a matter of time before she quit. After all, why would she stay?

She has too much to do in her life to wait around hoping the company will promote her to a place where she can make a difference and where her ideas can be heard.

Some time ago I worked for an organization that did the kind of work I wanted to do, but my role wasn’t in a place of impact. I didn’t mind what I did, but I wanted to move up and have my chance at the work I longed to be a part of.

I felt that way for more than a year. It was like I was in limbo— waiting for the chance to do the real work and stuck doing the other important, yet not energizing work.

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Fear Hacking: How to Overcome Your Worst Case Scenario

Have you ever done something really scary? I mean like shaking in your boots, I’m not sure if I can make it scary?

Maybe you risked to speak the truth to someone.
Maybe you pitched an idea you cared about but others might not.
Maybe you quit your job to go full time with your dream project.

Whatever the cause, we all have felt fear at some point.

Fear is an uncomfortable experience. It’s a feeling that most people choose to ignore or resolve as quickly as possible.

Often, our experiences tell us that fear is more than we can bare— that we MUST alleviate the tension. So we choose not to look at it and see it for what it is. Instead, we run away from it.

There is a trick that filmmakers use to increase suspense— they don’t show you what the character on the screen is afraid of or running from.

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