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The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy — Why You Make Them and How to Stop

I was talking with a friend about his business the other day. He’s wanting to scale things up and make a little more income. I suggested he try something he hadn’t done before. It would be a bold move on his part, but it would be unlike anything else in his field.

He bristled and went on to tell me that he couldn’t do that and all the reasons he had for it.

I wasn’t going to push him further than he wanted to go (this was just a friendly conversation after all), but he left the conversation just as stuck as he was before.

I left feeling frustrated. If you ask me for my opinion and ideas, don’t blame me if they’re too hard or scary for you. (After all, if you want to go places that other people are not going, you may have to take a different path to get there.)

I was annoyed that there were options right there in front of him, but he wouldn’t take them.
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Something is Better Than Nothing

When it comes to pursuing our goals, finding a deeper sense of purpose, or mastering a skill, doing something and taking some action is always better than doing nothing.

That is until we set a goal that is too far out of reach or our ideals gets in the way. Then our pursuit of continued action is replaced by the realization of how far we have to go to get to where we want to be.

It’s then that nothing instead of something seems justifiable.

Let me give you an example: let’s say you set the goal of practicing your art every day for a month. Three days in, you have extra meetings before and after work, and then a friend needs help moving. Before you know it, you’re waking up the next day and realizing that you won’t meet your goal this month because you missed a day.

What do you do next? Most people would quit. Why bother fighting for a goal that’s already gone?

The month passes and you only practiced a total of two times.

It’s easy to idealize an all or nothing mindset, when something is usually better than nothing.

Or let’s say you have a side business you work on daily. You hope to create a good income that you can eventually scale up and go full time. Today you only have 15 minutes instead of your usual two hours. What do you do? It’s easy to skip it because it’s not long enough to get any real work done.

But something is better than nothing.

Let’s say you want to go back to school but need to take the GRE before you apply. You set the goal of spending some time studying every day for three month until the test, but then you have a busy first week. It’s easy to postpone the test and tell yourself you need more time. But you’ve already done that twice.

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To The Graduating Class of 2015

Pathmaker, your footsteps are
the path, and nothing more;
Pathmaker, there is no path,
the path is made by walking.
By walking one makes the path,
and upon glancing behind
one sees the path
that never will be trod again.
Pathmaker, there is no path—
only wakes upon the sea.
–Antonio Machado

I’ve never given a graduation speech. I’ve never been a valedictorian. I’ve never had significant honors to speak of. But I have some things to say.

And so do you.

Graduation is a threshold into a vast world of uncharted territory. For most of you, the past 20 something years have been a more-or-less set path that moved you from grade to grade, school to school, and eventually to college.

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Does Career Planning Work?

“He said, ‘You can’t plan it all out, you know. You just have to do what comes next. You can’t plan your career.'”

One of my clients was sharing about a conversation she had with a man who has been very successful in the field she’s pursuing.

This client and I had worked hard together. We had explored her stories and found these themes repeated again and again. It was as if her life was saying, “This. This. Do this!” and she had finally been able to embrace it.

Having found what she wants to do and why she wants to do it, she was strategizing where to start and how she’d go about it.

“What do you think about that?” She asked me. “It seemed like he almost disagreed with what we are doing. How would you respond to that?!?”
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There Are No Rules

- - Courage, Possibility, Work

A few days ago I came across this in my Instagram feed. And it stopped me in my tracks:

Yes

A photo posted by Dallas Clayton (@dallasclayton) on

Dallas Clayton is an illustrator and author. His Instagram will make you happy.

Too often we spend our time following rules without thinking about them. Some of these rules are spoken, but many of them are unspoken. We follow them because it’s simply what we do.

We’ve made them up, picked them up, and called them our own without even realizing what we’re doing.

We notice them when someone else does something that we’re not “allowed” to do. All of the sudden we have lots of feelings about it. Maybe it’s someone who quit a job, raised a bunch of money for their dream project, or otherwise taken a risk and voiced a desire.
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